Dealing with Difficult People as a Believer
Looking Through the Lens of Faith
Often, when we face difficulties, we receive shallow advice that doesn’t help much. For example, when wrongfully accused, we might hear, “What would Jesus do?” or “Love your enemies.” In the heat of the moment, such advice can feel unhelpful and guilt-inducing. So, what does looking through the lens of faith really mean?
Faith Vision Means God’s Vision
Having faith vision means stepping back from anger and emotional overload. Instead of asking “What would Jesus do?” consider “What did Jesus do?” God sees the person who hurt you differently than you do. Jesus died for that person, just as He did for you. Your response might influence that person’s journey toward God. Seeing people as God sees them—lost and in need of light—helps us respond with grace rather than anger.
Faith Vision Means Self-Reflection
After viewing others through God’s eyes, it’s time for self-reflection. Consider what kind of person you are and how others see you. Are you honest and consistent, or do you wear different masks for different people? Recognize your own failings and how God views you—not with disappointment, but with love, despite your sins. Understanding that you, too, are undeserving of God’s grace can foster empathy and humility.
Faith Vision Means Focused Vision
When emotions run high, our perception becomes blurred. In moments of anger, we often act without seeing the situation clearly. Focused vision means looking at the facts and considering other perspectives. What did the person really say or do that offended you? Is the incident worth losing a relationship over? By seeing the situation clearly, you might discover that God allowed it to bring you closer to the other person and to foster growth in both of you.
Conclusion
It’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of emotional rampage, but we must not let our emotions overtake our sanity. By having God’s vision, seeing ourselves honestly, and looking at the situation from a higher perspective, we can overcome difficult situations and achieve better outcomes. Your efforts are necessary. While salvation is God’s work, the tests we face are for our growth. The next time you face confrontation, try looking at the situation from above and see things as they truly are. You might be surprised at the difference.
